Relationships are work - the word on the street is true!

When you fight an opposing force – rarely will you win because you are an opposing force yourself. That’s why you never feel great when you have unresolved conflict with a friend. If you try to fight what’s happening and instill your sense of entitlement and righteousness – rarely will you win; or so l have learned.  However – it is when you are able to take an honest step back and see your part in things – and accept that you own some responsibility that – believe it or not – you actually feel better, calm and are able to communicate more productively in a way that will produce results instead of further conflict. Being completely right is a lonely place and you aren’t usually entitled to be there. Rarely are we completely blameless when both sides feel bad about a situation. You can’t govern others – only yourself. And when you let go of that control freak in you, I can guarantee you will feel peace and acceptance in forgiving yourself for being human and being able to understand the fallible nature of humans in general. Admitting you’re wrong is so difficult for some of us – but when we finally do it – we make everyone around us feel good. That’s the kind of power I love.