February 2011
1 post
The online dating phenomenon
I hear so many horror stories of online dating experiences gone wrong - very, very wrong. The list of misrepresentation, stalking, poor online and offline behavior and outdated photos has become endless and incredibly discouraging. Yet so many people are still meeting online and some of those couples are even tying the knot! So what’s the problem with the online dating model?
A survey not...
June 2010
1 post
“Most single women have more condiments than nutrition in their fridge....”
– http://backtable.org/~blade/fnord/condiments.html
May 2010
13 posts
Saying good bye to someone very special
Last thursday, friend and Phat Chick co-founder Meredith Hagan was in a terrible accident. On friday she passed away which broke the hearts of everyone who ever met her and knew her. It was a tragedy that none of us could or still can get our minds around because it is impossible to think of this world without someone as energetic, positive and inspiring as Meredith. Meredith has left behind a...
It's spring and time for new beginnings and a nod...
And they say, Spring is a time for new beginnings so it was a great time to re-launch Solomag.com with some new features. As much as I love spring and new beginnings I have to admit that launching the new site really brought back memories for me. If any of you have every started your own website then you know what trust and faith it takes to find a designer who can truly read your mind, see your...
Relationships are work - the word on the street is...
When you fight an opposing force – rarely will you win because you are an opposing force yourself. That’s why you never feel great when you have unresolved conflict with a friend. If you try to fight what’s happening and instill your sense of entitlement and righteousness – rarely will you win; or so l have learned. However – it is when you are able to take an honest step back and see your part...
It's a new year and what have we learned?
I admire people who can take constructive criticism and turn it into positive change for themselves. They only become better people and they are confident in themselves in knowing that constructive criticism isn’t a slight against them. Instead, they see it as opportunity and challenge. It’s 2010 and another year under my belt means another year to look forward to. This year I’d...
Where did you go, Mr Nice Guy?
When I first met you, you were just that – “Nice”. Don’t get me wrong, it was very splendid meeting you but my heart never skipped a beat, not even a flutter. Back then that’s what I thought I needed. I had to fall head over heels or there was no chance. Love at first sight and all those long forgotten clichés. So I smiled and politely shook your hand and by the time we released our grip, I was...
What is this Christmas thing really about anyway?
Every year it’s the same thing when the holidays arrive. Lots of rushing around, christmas wish lists, bank account reviews and STRESS! The best part of it for me is meeting up with a friend in between shops and grabbing a quick glass of wine at some small little bar that has pretty Christmas lights up. In fact that’s my favorite part of the holidays - the quick little mini breaks from...
If it sounds too good to be true - it really is
Some of us are easily distracted by things such as bright, shiny objects and opportunities that seem to be perfect. So perfect, in fact, we can hardly believe they are real. Well here’s what I’ve learned the hard way - if it’s too good to be true - it is too good to be true. It really is. Don’t waste any further time, heartbreak or money trying to learn any different...
Bye Bye Berry
It’s not like losing a best friend or a family pet - it’s worse in that it affects me on so many more levels! There I was, frolicking in the park with my best pal in the world. We roller-bladed over to Toronto Island, we snuck margherita’s in our knapsack like 17 year olds, we found a great spot and played games all afternoon. It was too good to be true. Note: if it feels too...
Kissing Jessica Stein - my favorite singles flick
I had forgotten how much I love this movie until I watched it again today - twice. Jessica Stein is a great example of how we fool ourselves in the dating world and rarely understand ourselves and our own contribution to the ‘single cycle’. This is a great script with some pretty valuable insights. Jessica explores a lesbian relationship in an attempt to try something new; something a...
Enough of living the dream vicariously
I recently watched “The Women” with Meg Ryan and a host of other great actors. I wasn’t sure what to expect - another Hollywood ‘flick’ about women banding together with no real meaning but to give witness to our endless emotions, hormones and some entertaining hen sessions? It turned out to be a pleasant surprise and I walked away with a few interesting things to...
wherever a day can take you
It’s already been a long 7 months since Christmas and it’s definitely a good time for a holiday but I can’t get away right now. However I need a fix - even a small one. Just something to keep me going and to give me a little revitalization until I can book out of the city for a summer vacation. I took a quick trip out of town on the weekend - just a jaunt out to a few vineyards and...
Breaking up with a BFF is the hardest thing i've...
It isn’t easy breaking up with a friend - especially a “BFF” but there are times in our lives like any relationship, where we have to question if the friendship is growing and prospering or is it stagnant and toxic to our lives? I’ve had many friends share the same dilemma and it isn’t any easier than a break up with a boyfriend- in fact, I would argue that it’s...
my bridesmaid dress
Earlier I invited readers and friends to submit their bridesmaid dresses for a design over-haul. Everyone was thrilled with the idea of actually being able to recycle the one dress you know you will never wear again. So where are all these horrific dresses I have heard tales of? I started to really think about the situation after the first one finally came in. I suppose these dresses are more...
June 2009
1 post
40 is not the new 30
In my slew of Happy 40th parties I realize that we are all making excuses for the number 40. “40 is the new 30” I read - on several happy birthday cards. Why does 40 have to be the new 30 to make us feel better? 30 was great and now it’s gone and that decade was full of adventure, excitement, good times, tough times and most importantly - knowledge and experience. I...
May 2009
2 posts
The summer of Jacq - or not
When I was in my early to mid-30’s - it felt like every summer weekend was taken up by a wedding, a bridal shower or a stag and doe. I remember having 7 weddings in one summer! Wedding season has finally died down amongst my friends as most of them are either married, or have decided to run away and go south for their wedding - which means a great party when they get back. And then there are...
The launch of SOLOMAG - finally!
Just 3 years ago I was sitting on a dock in northern Ontario, drinking chardonnay and discussing my exit out of advertising with Natalie and Liz. One thing led to another, as they do, and one chardonnay led to another and with all the exchange of ideas with the girls I decided that if I could really do what I wanted with my life it would be to write an online magazine - possibly chronicling my...